Archive for July, 2008

Jam Session

Thursday, July 31st, 2008

What a surreal night we had last night.  And by surreal I mean cool, real cool,  but so different, it almost didn’t seem real.  There were many neat people gathered to help SingingSally and her family move.  It just so happens they moved closer to us.  She is quite fortunate to bask in the glow of living near us.  I will certainly expound on that in a later post.  In the meantime, we had the distinct pleasure of getting to spend some time with so many cool people while watching the CUBS BEAT THE BREWERS!!  Here’s the lineup:

  • Josh, who shall now forever be known as Jason (what Nanni says goes, and she has proclaimed him Jason!) - a really excellent guy who is about to become an Eagle scout.  I’d like to like him but I can’t.  He is a Cardinals fan and has the audacity to park his Jeep with the silly Cardinals tire cover mocking us in our own driveway.  I suppose I could like him because he helped move people that were total strangers to him, and then flat out refused to take any payment, but he is a Cards fan so I’m sure his gesture had some sort of shady motive. 
  • DustMeister – turns out this guy who has been living with us is a total poser.  Apparently, he’s been moderately faking an interest in baseball.  The dude knows NOTHING about the game.  He claims he did not deceive us purposefully.  Apparently, I ASSUMED wrong.  Like the other night, when we were in the same room together and his eyes were focused on the same Cubs game mine were focused on.  Apparently, when I was watching the players and the score, he was marveling at things like “Wowser, look at that ball girl.  She just gave a ball to a kid in the stands.  I didn’t know they did things like that at a baseball game.”  Hey, DustMeister!  We have TAKEN you to a real live baseball game.  What was that?  Were you there for the mere enjoyment of socializing with your friends?  Get over it.  Pay attention to the guys hitting a ball with a stick and running around!  Priorities, man, priorities.  I want my money back.
  • Jakester – my beloved nephew.  Recently of New York.  Soon to return to school in Manchester, England.  Sadly, another non baseball caring guy.  What is with you people?  At least he was willing to allow us to get our baseball fix last night and still hang out with us.  We don’t see him very often, and I know he misses us terribly.  So I’m happy for him.
  • AUBS! - now here is a girl I can love.  She loves our Cubbies and is not afraid to scream about it.  We are going to get to watch a whole lot more games together this summer, and I am fairly certain I will be suffering permanent hearing loss before the season is over.  I’m cool with that.  I, undoubtedly, do have my priorities in line.
  • Emmy – Emmy, Emmy, where were you?  Last night, you seemed to wander everywhere on our property BUT in front of the TV to watch the Cubs.  It must have been an oversight.  I’m sure it won’t happen again.
  • Steph – Emmy’s ultracool friend.  She is a White Sox fan, which is forgivable, mostly because her piano playing is to die for.  More on that in a moment…
  • SweetGuy – you know him.  He’s sweet.
  • Bud – you know him.  He’s Bud.  He has eyebrows.

Now here comes the surreal part.  The Cubs had the game in hand and one by one kids started to wander away from the TV.  We tracked them down by following this incredible music coming forth from our bedroom.  Turns out with a piano, a paper clip, a stick of gum, and a bottle rocket they managed to craft an amazing jam session.  Steph is an out of this world piano player.  Jakester accompanying.  Bud beating the hand drum.  DustMeister rigging our stereo into a mini-amp and synthesizing on Jakester’s Mac.  And Jason, Emmy, and AUBS! working combinations of the bass, vocals, and all of the above.  ALL of them squished into the corner of our very messy bedroom surrounding the piano.  Don’t ask.  Don’t y’all have a piano in your bedroom?  It’s the happening thing to do.

 

The energy, the fun, the MUSIC, all of it was mind blowing and absolutely delightfully fun-full.  I totally, totally want them to do that again.  Please just let me make my bed and remove my dirty clothes first, guys, K?

Must See.

Tuesday, July 29th, 2008

This… this will be worth it.  Trust me.  This video is short.  It is family friendly.  And it is Oscar worthy.  Watch it.  Your sound really needs to be turned on, though, as it is a rather important part of what you are about to see.

 
The Eyebrows of Bud from Andi on Vimeo.

 

It’s a wedding!

Monday, July 28th, 2008

Young love…

 

SweetGuy’s Mom got married this past Saturday.  It was a tender, special ceremony and reception.  I’d forgotten how much fun it can be to be part of a wedding of someone close to you.  The girl bonding time…  buying a new outfit just for the occasion… the jitters just before the ceremony…  watching young love bloom…  seeing people you sincerely care about but haven’t talked to in years…  meeting fabulous new people.  It’s all a delight. 

I wish my SweetMotherInLaw all the best.  She deserves love & happiness, and we are so thrilled it has found her.  Here’s to you, newlyweds!!!

An Incredible Friday

Saturday, July 26th, 2008

It is not your normal Friday in our house.  Truth be told, I don’t have time to write much.  But, I do want it to be know that it is a wedding weekend here in these parts, and it’s exhilarating.

SweetGuy’s Mom is getting married.  Her intended is a fabulously nice gentleman, and we are all very excited for them and their future.  It’s fun to experience the excitement of being closely involved in wedding festivities…. which hasn’t happened for me since our close friends K & A were the last of our gang to be married off almost… um, too long ago.

The rehearsal dinner took place this evening.  Here’s the special bride and groom pictured above.  Much more info to follow, details shall be coming soon….

Canadia

Wednesday, July 23rd, 2008

We are going to embark on our annual family vacation in a few weeks.  We have taken a week long family vacation every year since 2000.  We make this a priority even when we feel like we don’t have the money.  We will never get these years back with the kids and the times we have spent on vacation with just the four of us have really been priceless.

Last year, in an effort to save a little money, and try something different we rented a CHEAP!!  eclectic cabin in remote Ontario.  Our plan was to drive there and just relax.  Seeing as we normally have A.D.D. vacations where we are on the go constantly, we didn’t know if Canadia (as we took to calling it) would work for us.

The excitement began to mount for us as we entered Canadia, drove a few more hours north, and exited the multi-lane highway onto a two road stretch.  Excitement began to give way to worry as we went from two lane highway to a two lane gravel road, then a one lane gravel road.  Worry gave way to panic for Magoo and I (SweetGuy and Bud were inexplicably enjoying the adventure… panic people!  This situation calls for panic!) as the one lane gravel road gave way to a forest enclustered trail that if two cars met head on, one would have to back up for a mile before they could find a way around each other.

Us girls sat in the back seat of the van clenching the seats in front of us as we bounced the last few miles to our cabin rental.  We squealed and screeched and wondered aloud if the person that had rented us the cabin was actually a serial killer luring his unsuspecting prey into his lair.  I am not totally joking here, we were getting creeped out. 

Entering the cabin compound allayed our fears about the serial killer… but not much else.  Here’s the good and the bad of the cabin.  Good:  Clean.  Places for all of us to sleep.  Bad:  Mousetraps all about. Unidentifiable previously alive furry things hanging on the walls.  A gun rack made out of REAL deer hooves.  A small bathroom with a note suggesting flushing as little as possible.  STUFF and CLUTTER everywhere. 

The owner left, and Rod went off to find the country store that was at least 45 minutes away.  Bud, Magoo, and I went about unloading our groceries and trying to talk ourselves into the fact that “This place will be fine.  Yeah, fine.  It’ll be fine.  Sure, just fine.  Not a problem, fine.”  It wasn’t working.  My anxiety level was through the roof… Magoo’s too.  Bud was content.  I hate that about him.  He worked hard to calm us.  But, we were uptight about spending the next week in this cabin that was, frankly, freaking us totally out.

We finally got our heads about us, and did what we should have done from the first moment.  Bud, Magoo, and I prayed together and asked that the Lord give us peace about this place, keep us safe, and help us enjoy the beauty and splendor surrounding the cabin, not fixate on the things that were bothering us.  Whoosh.  A weight lifted immediately and NOW our vacation could start in earnest.

 What the cabin lacked on the inside, it made up for on the outside.  It had a great dock looking out on a pristine lake:

The view from the dock was extraordinary.  Worries about needing to participate in an A.D.D. vacation melted away when we saw this:

We also suffered the hot tub:

We all wondered if SweetGuy would be able to relax and slow down.  He’s normally a hard driving dude.  Well, he managed to slowdown all right.  We thought he was comatose.  He slept, he read, he slept, he read and slept, he sat on the dock and read, he sat in the whirlpool and read, he sat by the fire and read.  He SAT, SLEPT, and READ and we were all delighted he did so.

SweetGuy’s laziness is just one of many stellar memories I have.  There was swimming (more like floating with a purpose) clear across the lake with Bud.  It took forever, but we had a goal.  We wanted to touch the other side.  Bud is a slavedriver.  I wanted to turn back, but Bud made me keep going.  I’m glad he did.  He also wanted to climb up the sheer vertical rock wall on the other side.  I floated away.

Magoo, Bud and I got into the outdoor sauna.  It was very cool (cool, like nifty, not cool like cold, that would be bad) because the sauna rocks were actually heated by a wood fire.  We loved the rusticness (a new word me thinks) of it.  We sweated in the sauna for a while, then ran screaming down to the chilly Canadia lake and dived in.  Boy, let me tell you, that was a heart attack invigorating!  Much gasps and squeeling followed.  Honestly, it felt amazingly great.

 

 Bud allowed us to mess with his hair all week long.  He has really thick hair that grows fast.  As it gets longer, it goes in all different directions and he’s forced to…. TAKE CARE OF IT.  Worse yet, he may need to use PRODUCT on it.  The tragedy of it all.  His solution is to buzz cut it.  It’s a good look on him.  He was due for a buzz just before our Canadia vacation.  Somehow, Magoo and I managed to convince him to let us, for the duration of the vacation, mess with his hair.  THIS must be a universal girl thing to do, eh?  We had dreams of trimming, and bleaching, and spiking, and soul patching.  Bud allowed us to do whatever we wanted with the caveat that at the end of the week, we would buzz cut it and it would be back to normal.  We all got so many laughs out of this, and might I say, Magoo and I really liked the bleach, and wished we would have gone a little more heavy with it. 

After forcing him against his will to grow his hair while we were on vacation.  Immediately afterwards Magoo used an equal amount of coersion to talk him into shaving because it looked like this.  Magoo is not a fan of facial hair.  Pardon the tangent, but her dislike of facial hair is causing strife in our house at this moment.  For some odd reason, Bud and DustMeister are holding a sideburn growing contest.  It’s very tense watching the non-stop action of this challenge, let me tell ya.  Magoo is not pleased.  She believes side burns make them look like dorks, and is not afraid to state it.  I think her sweetie, Da Kaff, should join the contest!!

Other great memories from the trip?  Laughter, constant laughter.

 We shall embark on another family vacation soon.  I am pumped.

 

 

 

 

To Be Expected

Monday, July 21st, 2008

Last night at youth group, we had a lot of new kids, so we handed out cards to collect some info on each student.  Magoo asked if she had to fill it out.  A reasonable question I suppose as it was basic info that the youth group leaders were collecting, and seeing as her Mom and Dad are the leaders, she didn’t think it was necessary.  I told her “Of course you have to fill it out” — because I get a kick out of grating her nerves.  We all do, really.  She responded by filling it out.  Here is a scan of her card:

I think her creativity must have peaked at “Dumb and Dumber”.  Ahem.  Go clean your room, Magoober.

Incidents like this remind me that things are a bit out of the ordinary for Bud and Magoo in terms of how their parents fit into their “worlds”.  We planet-hop over to their different worlds fairly regularly, which apparently is a bit unsettling at times.  I was giving DustMeister a lift today.  I mentioned “Did you know Hubert and Matilda (fake names, who would’ve guessed?!) broke up?  I saw it on Facebook.”  DustMeister let out a whelp and looked at me with wide eyes and jaw dropped.  I said, “Surprised, huh?”  He stammered “Well, about them, yes, but actually my reaction was because of how weird it was to just find that news out from you in this way.” 

Poor kid.  Apparently it’s a little creepy to find out about one friend’s breakup from another friend’s Mom who found out about it via Facebook.  Hey, I have Facebook only because of youth group.  Yeah, that’s it.  Only because of youth group.

Believe it or not, SweetGuy and I have tried to be sensitive about being over-involved in the kids’ lives.  Have we succeeded in our level of involvement?  Who knows, but according to Bud and Magoo, our involvement has been at times pretty cool, and a little irritating every once in a while.  I can appreciate their view, and at this stage of the game if they tell us to back off, we surely will. 

And, maybe I’ll stop passing Facebook info along to anyone younger than 21.  But, I draw the line at halting my stellar participation in Rock Band.  Those kids, they NEED me.  Speaking of which, at this very moment, DustMeister and Da Kaff are locked in a serious stint of rocking the guitar and drums…  and an odd – rather creepy in its own right –  falsetto singing voice for the song Mississippi Queen.  I swear, watching the concentration on their faces when they are locked into this game, is EXACTLY the same as watching Michael Jordan tear up the court… tongues and all.

 

Le Eye Roll

Wednesday, July 16th, 2008

OK, I am definitely biased, but I think to know Magoo is to love Magoo.  And, at the top of the list for things to love about Magoo is that she SHOWS whatever her emotion of the moment is through her amazing facial expressions.  You don’t ever have to look at Magoo and wonder what she’s feeling.  Her face screams her emotions.  We tease her about it sometimes, and I sure hope that never makes her consciously try to hide her emotions, because even though we tease, the sights and sounds of Magoo are totally endearing. 

And of course, the first face on any list of Magoo’s expressions has to be her eye roll.  I absolutely assure you this picture on the right is not staged or faked in any way.  It’s natural, uncensored Magoo. Big bummer though, because the picture doesn’t capture Le Eye Roll at its zenith.  Really, we should only see the whites of her eyes.  But, I don’t have to convince you.  If you’ve spent more than 10 minutes with Magoo, you’ve probably seen the real thing.  Her expressions are unrehearsed and involuntary.  Trying to make her stop would be like trying to make a lefty into a right handed person.  It’s just not natural. 

And, might I add that the world record holder for being the recipient of a Magoo eye roll is Bud.  By my calculations she has rolled her eyes at him approximately 7 times a day since she was 9 months old.  Take away the 18 months he was away at school and he’s witnessed the rolling of the eyes 41886.5 times.  Do the math.  He barely nudges out SweetGuy, who is in second place with 1,744 times.  Me?  I’ve never seen it.  I’ve just heard of the phenomenon.

The Worlds Collide

Tuesday, July 15th, 2008

I never watched Seinfeld much.  I thought it was a hilarious show but back in the day when it was airing first time episodes the kids were young, and we didn’t think its mature themes were appropriate viewing.  But still, what I did see, I thought was hilarious.  The episodes all seemed to center around some sort of quirky happening or thought, which albeit very, very exaggerated, most of us can relate to at least a tiny bit.  At least I could.

I recall one episode that struck a chord with me.  I don’t remember any details.  Matter of fact, maybe I didn’t even see the whole thing.  But, it had to do with George’s nervousness about his “World’s colliding”  -  he had compartments in his life that he wasn’t comfortable running into each other, such as his “dating” world and his “single” world.  I relate to this compartmentalized life idea.  Do you?

I have never intentionally kept my worlds apart.  Well, not too often anyway.  They just naturally stayed separate, mostly because everyone lived in different areas of the world.  SweetGuy’s extended family didn’t often get together with my extended family.  Our families didn’t normally particpate with our church/youth group friends and activities.  High school friends we affectionately call “The Gang” rarely saw these other worlds either. 

Man, all of the sudden, our world’s are colliding all over the place, and let me tell you, it feels kinda odd.  Not bad, not bad at all, excellent actually.  Just a bit weird.

                   Bud      DustMeister       Magoo       Emmy       The White Rose

  • I didn’t even realize the nieces on either side of the family had barely met.  How cool it was when they got to spend a few days together at our house last week.  No surprise here, but they got along immediately and super well.  After spending about a nanosecond together, it was delightful to see The White Rose and Emmy relaxing out on a blanket in the front yard talking music like they’d been friends for years.
  • Nanni got to see that thing we do with youth group a few weeks ago.  I know she loved what she saw.  It was special to have her witness first hand this majorly important portion of our life.  She even got into the act and made the kids tacos for our Mexican theme night.
  • Emmy, The White Rose, and Rach were part of youth group last week.  They fit in like they’d been there forever.  I’m hoping Emmy will want to be a part of it when they move here soon, but no pressure Emmy!  I’ll still let you cook and clean for me if you don’t participate in youth group.  I’m awesome like that.
  • Rach and The White Rose were totally into dodgeball last week, as were Emmy and AUBS! a few weeks earlier.  Rach’s technique definitely involved sneaking up on her prey.  It worked over and over again.  On me.  It was irritating.  I’d rather she not come back.
  • Despite the unfortunate circumstances, it’s been awesome to get to know so many of Mom & Dad’s special friends, and I think they us.
  • The kids’ friends, like DustMeister, Da Kaff, EL, Neil and Grace are fitting into all these worlds just fine. 

It’s not as if our various worlds have never touched before.  SweetGuy’s sister… I think we shall have to call her SweetSister was great friends with my brother (The Favorite) before I ever even knew SweetGuy.  My sister, the Neglected  Middle Child, was on the Pom Pon squad many years ago with SweetSister.  The special lady that’s been so awesome about commenting here, Robin, she’s been spanning our different worlds from way, way back.  So, yeah, there’s been little bits of mixing of worlds here and there, but not consistently.

Just speaking the truth here… these new happenings make me a little bit nervous.  I am apprehensive about someone in one world not liking someone from another world.  No, that’s not a good way to put it.  We care about all the different worlds so much, that I think it would hurt too much if they didn’t think as much of each other, as we do them, thus the apprehension.   Now that I’ve seen so many of them meet up in recent months, I have no idea what I was worried about.  It’s a heartwarming thing for me to watch.  I’m sorry we didn’t facilitate more of this before.  Mardy, a member of “The Gang” who we have gotten together with just about every weekend for the last 15 years read this blog today.  She stated surprise at learning things about my different worlds she’d never known before.  Definitely my bad.

I’m glad the world’s are combining.  Who knew.

Now for a teaser to my planned next post…. I am out of town and have time on my hands… you’ll want to tune into the first in an ongoing series:  The Many Faces of Magoo. 

 

Trying this again

Monday, July 14th, 2008

I am flying to Baltimore today, and will head home Thursday night.  So far, it looks like my first leg of the flight will be late… possibly making me miss my connection to Baltimore.  It looks right now like I will make it, but HISTORY does not bode well for me.  Look for more posts in the next few days, as I will definitely have time to get on the laptop!

Transitions

Thursday, July 10th, 2008

SweetGuy, Bud, and I (there was no Magoo at the time) moved back “home” from Missouri way back when.  Our main purpose for the move was to be closer to family.  It was very important to us that our children grow up knowing their Grandparents, cousins, and such.

Subsequently, after we moved back, one by one our entire families LEFT us!  One after another pulled up stakes and moved away.  If we weren’t so confident in our supreme coolness, we might have gotten a complex.

Now the years have passed and some of those folks who moved on are now on their way back.  They must have tired of living without us.  Smart people.  A little slow, but at least they are figuring it out now.  Rod’s Mom moved closer a few years ago.  My Mom, Nanni, has now moved back.  And my sister and her kids will soon be back in the fold.  It’s a very, very exciting time for us, and we could not be more thrilled about these folks being close by.  Everybody else, you should come too!!  It’s the cool thing to do, everyone’s doing it.

Nanni has gone through huge transitions — no, huge isn’t a big enough word — monumental transitions in the last few months.  Nursing Dad through a terrible illness, enduring the loss of her husband, best friend, and nearly constant companion, undergoing continued cancer treatments herself, packing up and selling their home in northern Illinois, living like a gypsy for a month (at my brother’s no less — poor woman), and now, purchasing and moving into a home in a new city.  She is living on her own for the first time in at least 51 years.  Well, now that I think about it, maybe the first time ever.  That I can recall, after she moved out of her parent’s house, I’m pretty sure she always had roommates. 

When I think of this humongous transition, and look at the way she is handling it, I can’t help but marvel.  She moves steadily forward without complaint, and still keeps her sense of humor.  Here is how she suggested dressing for the first time she would meet her neighbors at the 4th of July block party.  (If you can’t make it out in the picture, those are blond extensions in her hair.)  She is taking on new roles and tasks she never had to play before, such as filling the car with gas, playing hardball with poor customer service people, setting up cable and Internet, and even reading email.  And she is not only having to do all these things, she has to do them without being able to bounce ideas off her trusted confidant.  My parents always talked.  That sounds like a silly statement, doesn’t it?  But, there are some astounding statistics out there about how much, scratch that,  how little married couples actually talk.  Not Mom and Dad.  They bounced ideas off of each other constantly… albeit in a bit of a unique manner I never quite comprehended.  Of all the things that have changed in her life, perhaps this is the toughest. 

But, life does go on, and she knows it.  She is tackling this transition like a world champ.  I am so proud of her.  And, we are all just delighted that she has moved nearer to us.  Her new place is about a 50 foot jaunt to a lovely pool.  The very day that the moving van arrived at her new place Bud, Magoo, The White Rose, AUBS!, DustMeister, and Emmy took to her pool.  Nanni and the rest of us sat by the pool and soaked in the beautiful sunset and even more beautiful relationships we get to partake in.  Though Mom has been through the worst of times of late, it has that feel of the clouds drifting away and the sun appearing.